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"BDSM can be quite dangerous. Responsible practitioners insist it must be “safe, sane, and consensual.” But it attracts people who like to push boundaries. Some submissives are adrenaline junkies: They don’t believe in safety. Recently, several men have admitted to or have been charged with or convicted of crimes including sexual abuse, kidnapping, and murder, all under the cover of BDSM. These men don’t represent BDSM, but they do represent the far end of sadism. On BDSM sites, you’ll find harrowing fetishes such as immersion water bondage and breath play, which some community leaders consider inherently unsafe. Even a standard ball gag can kill the victim by triggering regurgitation.

Every article about BDSM now includes the obligatory professional woman who’s secure enough in her feminism to admit she likes to be flogged. It’s great that we’ve come that far, but the message is awkward. While reformers in India battle a culture of rape, Indian BDSM advocates extol the bliss of female masochism. While human rights activists denounce caning and waterboarding, BDSM lecturers teach the joys of caning and waterboarding. Abduction, slavery, humiliation, torture—everything we condemn outside the world of kink is celebrated within it.

The core ethical principle of BDSM is consent. But given the underlying dynamics—one person who wants to dominate, another who wants to be dominated—consent often blurs. BDSM attracts masochists whose boundaries can be pushed. It attracts sadists who like to push those boundaries. According to the New York Observer, “In the last year, hundreds of people have come forward to describe the abuse they’ve suffered within the scene. … The stories ranged from more benign assaults (unwanted groping) to tales of being drugged and raped.” In a survey by NCSF, more than 30 percent of BDSM participants reported that their pre-negotiated limits on violence or domination had been breached. The coalition’s spokeswoman concluded: “There is still confusion between consensual BDSM and assault.”

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William Saletan, The Trouble With Bondage [X] (via witch-hag)

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cctvnews:

‘Empty buckets’ in Henan say no to Ice Bucket Challenge

Dozens of people in the drought-hit Henan Province are protesting against the Ice Bucket Challenge, which has become a global viral trend

Armed with empty buckets, bowls and other containers, the protesters stood outside the Spring Temple Buddha in Lushan County on Friday.

The Chinese characters on their clothes read: “Henan, please say no to the Ice Bucket Challenge.”

The province is experiencing its worst drought since 1951. Nearly 19 million people have been affected by the drought.

With that in mind, protesters are calling for water to be saved and other sensible means to be used to help patients of Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS).

Read more:http://wp.me/p4xlGl-OP

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bitterassfandom:

rae-rose:

rad-and-broke:

campdracula5eva:

youbestnotmiss:

smitethepatriarchy:

viva-la-fat:

"You’re 6’4", 240-pound Marine, and you’re injured, and you need a Marine next to you to carry you back to safety, and the Marine next to you is a 5’4" woman who weighs 115 pounds,"

No problem.

in before “well most women can’t do that” because NEWS FLASH most men can’t either, that’s why it’s a highly specialized career that requires a lot of devoted training

One of my former coworkers was a very slim girl only a tad taller than me, and she was training to be a fireman, and she could lift the biggest dude on my crew like this who was around 6’5 and super bulky.One time she picked him up and ran around the crew room with him for about 5 minutes before letting him down.

Even though I haven’t exercised in over a year—if you count DDR—and I’m incredibly petite (5’0”, 100 lbs), I can carry most guys. If they’re under 200 lbs, I can run with them on my back for 5 blocks, but I can walk for a mile. Once they’re about 250, I can only walk about a block or two before my spine feels like it’s about to break. If I were in a survival situation and their life depended on it, I could go on much further, until my legs gave out.
It’s why I hate the bullshit that women are inherently weak. Nah, man. Nah.

More power to you all because I can barely lift my five year old nephew without hating myself ten minutes later….

People have done studies of the military that demonstrate that with the same training for the same length of time, both men and women can achieve the same fitness level. They can carry as much, run as far, shoot as well, you name it. The idea that women are weaker than men is a total myth, and one that that the patriarchy is desperate to make us believe. (I wish I could give you a source for this but it’s been a while since I read it)

bitterassfandom:

rae-rose:

rad-and-broke:

campdracula5eva:

youbestnotmiss:

smitethepatriarchy:

viva-la-fat:

"You’re 6’4", 240-pound Marine, and you’re injured, and you need a Marine next to you to carry you back to safety, and the Marine next to you is a 5’4" woman who weighs 115 pounds,"

No problem.

in before “well most women can’t do that” because NEWS FLASH most men can’t either, that’s why it’s a highly specialized career that requires a lot of devoted training

One of my former coworkers was a very slim girl only a tad taller than me, and she was training to be a fireman, and she could lift the biggest dude on my crew like this who was around 6’5 and super bulky.One time she picked him up and ran around the crew room with him for about 5 minutes before letting him down.

Even though I haven’t exercised in over a year—if you count DDR—and I’m incredibly petite (5’0”, 100 lbs), I can carry most guys. If they’re under 200 lbs, I can run with them on my back for 5 blocks, but I can walk for a mile. Once they’re about 250, I can only walk about a block or two before my spine feels like it’s about to break. If I were in a survival situation and their life depended on it, I could go on much further, until my legs gave out.

It’s why I hate the bullshit that women are inherently weak. Nah, man. Nah.

More power to you all because I can barely lift my five year old nephew without hating myself ten minutes later….

People have done studies of the military that demonstrate that with the same training for the same length of time, both men and women can achieve the same fitness level. They can carry as much, run as far, shoot as well, you name it. The idea that women are weaker than men is a total myth, and one that that the patriarchy is desperate to make us believe. (I wish I could give you a source for this but it’s been a while since I read it)

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englishsnow:

 Indea Vanmerllin

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Olafur Eliasson layers a riverbed within louisiana museum of modern art.

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Sebastian Reiser

danielodowd:

Sebastian Reiser

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"There’s all these songs about loving a girl who doesn’t know she’s beautiful. But what about loving a girl that does? How come liking myself makes me less appealing?"

My 12 year old cousin is actually pretty deep (via imjust-a-girl)

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Violent Relationships with Dr. Leelia Franck

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opeitsayuh:

& I get to call this home.
Hawai’i | O’ahu

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ethiopienne:

dragonheartedrabbit:

Going on right now in Ferguson: Police are raiding a church that has been stocked with medical supplies, food, and tear gas recovery kits for community members engaging in protests. This cannot be allowed to continue.

Stand up, speak out. 

This is real life. (x)

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the dangers of deluding yourself with body positivity

thriftorama:

Body Positivity Convinced Me That My Abnormal Amount of Body Hair Was Normal So I Didn’t Notice Myself Turning Into a Gorilla. I don’t hate being a gorilla, I just wish I’d known ahead of time.

I Used to be 140 Pounds, But Then I Saw a Picture of A Fat Girl Smiling on the Internet and Now My Goal Weight Is 600.

We The Make Up and Weight Loss Industry Feel First Offended, Second Hurt, and Third Very Left Out; Have a Heart

A Woman I Personally Find Unattractive Wore a Crop Top and I Found Looking at Her Physically Painful. Turns out I just have appendicitis. The two were unrelated. Force me to look at your body and you force me to misidentify the cause of my symptoms.

It Happened to Me: I thought I mattered outside my desirableness to men. Haha, silly me. Here’s how some dudes from Reddit set me straight.

BREAKING NOW. FAT WOMEN EXIST AND OFTEN ENTER PUBLIC SPACES.

Massive Bic Layoffs in the Wake of Women Shaving Their Legs Less. "What we’re looking at here is a total economic collapse," says CEO. "It is the end times. The end times feature a disappointing lack of smooth, hairless babes."

THIN WOMEN OUTLAWED, ALL HETEROSEXUAL MEN NOW REQUIRED TO EXPRESS SEXUAL INTEREST ONLY IN WOMEN WEIGHING MORE THAN 200 POUNDS. Violators face ridicule and even BADLY HURT FEELINGS.

CULTURAL EVOLUTIONIST UNDERSTANDING OF LINK BETWEEN BODY SHAPE AND SEXUAL ATTRACTION UNEQUIVOCALLY REJECTED. “Yeah, that’s bullshit” say scientists.

CELEBRITIES NO LONGER FUNDAMENTALLY BETTER THAN YOU.

Fat people now considered human in radical new bill. 

The Internet is now 96% Totally Smokin’ Selfies, Study Says. We’re all very distracted. By your hot face and bod.

Livestream: Unappealing straight boys crying about insufficient consideration paid to their genitals. Porn and media representation met their poor reality confrontation skills in the middle and now they’re confused as to what women actually look like. More at 11.

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